I’m in a very unsteady point in a relationship with a woman who but two years ago was unquestionably the love of my life. Last year, something happened when she went to college in the mountains. She became distant and withdrawn, she left me for some guy she felt would be able to reprieve her loneliness. Things haven’t gone well for them… I’ve been in contact with her up to this day and I know the problem she entered into middle of last year. She has some friends, I can’t find out who they are and that’s probably for the best. I don’t know if she was telling me the truth when she claimed it was her idea to try it at first…
The point is, she did… The first time, she explained she didn’t feel well and saw nothing but spots and a headache. She’d gotten a bad batch, they convinced her to try again promising better results. They were right, the second time she explained the feeling of unimaginable euphoria. A total bliss, a feeling of sensuality missing from her life with her present companion. A feeling of love and desire not only from her but of her. That she could feel lusted for and loved, something she has difficulty believing with her low self image.
She claims that she wants to stop and I believe she is making the effort, but I am keeping it in mind that she has done it several times over the months and will have difficulty doing this on her own.
I need some advice from someone who has had more experience, not only of the help but the recovery from addiction. I’ve read so many things with different outcomes, some so unbearably nihilistic that I can’t help but to fear the worst. Some not so bad, that someone who entered the addiction for a cover up reason may generally break of it after sometimes only three years. Some have claimed that the most heartrending part of the withdrawal, the overwhelming desire and craving for it can be completely overcome in as long as 8 months.
From an honest and cold calculating opinion, I want to know from someone who has dealt with this before…
Do I give her a time frame to expect the worst with a gleam on the horizon, do any of you think that it will be a hope and a thread to grasp onto? Or do you believe that by giving her something like that, she will blanch and give up hope in the face of almost a year of pain?
Anything to help her no matter how much it hurts me, I need the truth but more I need an honest opinion from someone who knows more than I. I’ve overcome an over the counter anti-depressant and anti-psychotic cocktail addiction prescribed to me for years by someone I thought I could trust… I gave it up cold turkey and suffered through months of despair and paranoia, I know she can do the same… How can I help prove this to her?Tags: please I have to help her stop the heroin addiction